80+ Would You Rather Questions That'll Make Your Partner Say 'Wait, Really?'

Would You Rather gets a bad reputation. People think it's a party game for college students or a road trip time killer. But here's what nobody tells you: when you play it with your partner, it becomes one of the most revealing relationship exercises you can do. No therapist required.

Think about it. Every "would you rather" forces a choice. And choices reveal priorities. When your partner picks "rather give up social media forever than give up coffee," that tells you something. When they pick "rather know the future than change the past," that tells you something deeper.

The trick is asking the right questions. Not the boring ones. Not the gross ones from middle school. The ones that actually make you pause, debate, and discover something new about the person you thought you had all figured out.

So here are 80+ of them, organized by vibe so you can match the mood of the moment.

Flirty Would You Rather Questions

Start here if you want to turn a boring Tuesday into something a little more charged. These are playful, a little spicy, and designed to bring back that early dating energy when everything felt electric.

• Would you rather receive a surprise love letter or a surprise date night?
• Would you rather have a spontaneous kiss in the rain or a slow dance in the living room?
• Would you rather I whispered something sweet or something bold in your ear right now?
• Would you rather we recreate our first date or design our dream date from scratch?
• Would you rather have a partner who's an incredible kisser or an incredible cuddler?
• Would you rather get a flirty text from me every morning or a goodnight call every night?
• Would you rather we take a couples' cooking class or a couples' dance class?
• Would you rather I surprised you at work or surprised you at home?
• Would you rather have breakfast in bed or dinner under the stars?
• Would you rather we shower together or take a bath together?
• Would you rather I wore your favorite outfit or your favorite perfume/cologne?
• Would you rather have a weekend where we never leave the bedroom or a weekend exploring a new city?
• Would you rather I sent you a spicy photo or wrote you a spicy note?
• Would you rather have a ten minute massage every day or a full hour massage once a month?
• Would you rather we had more inside jokes or more shared hobbies?

Notice how even the "light" questions have weight? When someone picks the love letter over the date night, you're learning they value words and effort over experiences. That's useful intel. File it away.

Deep Would You Rather Questions

Now we're getting into the good stuff. These questions don't have easy answers, and that's exactly the point. The conversation that follows the choice matters more than the choice itself.

• Would you rather know when you're going to die or how you're going to die?
• Would you rather lose all your memories of us and fall in love again or keep every memory but never feel that "first time" rush?
• Would you rather be with someone who challenges you constantly or someone who always agrees with you?
• Would you rather we had more passion or more peace in our relationship?
• Would you rather live a short extraordinary life or a long ordinary one?
• Would you rather know everything your partner thinks about you or remain blissfully unaware?
• Would you rather forgive someone who doesn't deserve it or hold a grudge that protects you?
• Would you rather be deeply loved by one person or admired by millions?
• Would you rather change one thing about your past or guarantee one thing about your future?
• Would you rather we always told each other the truth, even when it hurts, or occasionally spared each other's feelings?
• Would you rather lose your ability to feel happiness or your ability to feel sadness?
• Would you rather have a partner who's emotionally available but financially struggling, or financially stable but emotionally distant?
• Would you rather we moved somewhere new every two years or stayed in one place forever?
• Would you rather sacrifice your dream career for the relationship or sacrifice the relationship for your dream career?
• Would you rather know for certain we'll be together forever or live with the beautiful uncertainty of choosing each other every day?

But here's the kicker with these deep ones: there are no wrong answers. If your partner picks something that surprises you, lean into curiosity, not judgment. Ask them why. The "why" is where the real connection happens.

Funny Would You Rather Questions

Sometimes you just need to laugh together. Laughter is genuinely one of the most underrated relationship tools. Couples who laugh together report higher satisfaction, better conflict resolution, and stronger bonds. Science backs this up.

• Would you rather accidentally call your partner by your ex's name or have your partner read your entire search history?
• Would you rather have your partner narrate everything you do in a documentary voice for a day or sing everything they say to you for a day?
• Would you rather always have to sleep with socks on or never be able to wear socks again?
• Would you rather have your partner forget every anniversary but remember every tiny thing you said, or remember every anniversary but forget conversations?
• Would you rather your only way to communicate for a week be charades or interpretive dance?
• Would you rather eat only your partner's cooking for a year (no restaurants) or only eat takeout for a year (no home cooked meals)?
• Would you rather swap bodies with your partner for a week or swap wardrobes for a month?
• Would you rather have your first fight replayed on a big screen at a family gathering or your most embarrassing moment replayed at their work party?
• Would you rather have hiccups every time you tried to be romantic or sneeze every time you tried to be serious?
• Would you rather your partner always be five minutes late or always be thirty minutes early to everything?
• Would you rather only communicate through memes for a week or only communicate through voice memos?
• Would you rather your partner only cooked one meal perfectly forever or cooked everything at a solid "okay" level?
• Would you rather smell like garlic for a week or have garlic breath for a month?
• Would you rather your partner told the worst jokes but always laughed at yours, or told amazing jokes but never laughed at yours?
• Would you rather live in a world where everyone knows when you're lying or a world where you can never tell if someone else is?

Pro tip: the funny ones work best when you commit to the absurdity. Don't just answer. Defend your choice passionately. That's where the real entertainment lives.

Future and Lifestyle Would You Rather Questions

These questions reveal what kind of life your partner actually wants to build. And sometimes, what you discover might surprise you. Maybe even recalibrate how you think about your shared future together.

• Would you rather live in a tiny apartment in the world's best city or a huge house in the middle of nowhere?
• Would you rather retire early with a modest lifestyle or work longer and live luxuriously?
• Would you rather have no kids and travel the world or have three kids and build deep roots?
• Would you rather we prioritized experiences or possessions with our money?
• Would you rather have a job you love that pays average or a job you tolerate that pays incredibly well?
• Would you rather we hosted dinner parties every week or had quiet evenings alone?
• Would you rather live near your family or live somewhere entirely new?
• Would you rather have a personal chef or a personal trainer for the rest of your life?
• Would you rather spend money on a dream wedding or a dream honeymoon?
• Would you rather age gracefully with zero cosmetic intervention or have access to whatever treatments you want?
• Would you rather we shared all finances completely or kept some money separate?
• Would you rather have a four day work week or a six hour work day?
• Would you rather know our relationship compatibility score from something like LoveCheck or discover everything about us organically over time?
• Would you rather we always lived together or had the option of separate living spaces?
• Would you rather we made all big decisions together or each had final say on different domains?

Spicy Would You Rather Questions

Look, physical intimacy matters. And talking about it openly is something a lot of couples struggle with even after years together. These questions create a low pressure way to open doors to conversations you might not start otherwise.

• Would you rather try something completely new together or perfect something we already love?
• Would you rather have an amazing connection once a week or a good connection every day?
• Would you rather we scheduled intimacy or always kept it spontaneous?
• Would you rather your partner initiated more or responded with more enthusiasm?
• Would you rather give or receive?
• Would you rather we spent more time on build up or got right to the point?
• Would you rather your partner surprised you with something new or asked first?
• Would you rather lights on or lights off? (Classic, but when's the last time you actually asked?)
• Would you rather stay in the bedroom or go somewhere unexpected?
• Would you rather focus on emotional connection during physical moments or let it be purely physical sometimes?

The key here is zero judgment. Whatever your partner says, the only appropriate response is curiosity. Not shock. Not defensive laughter. Genuine, open curiosity.

The Questions That Didn't Fit a Category (But You'll Love Anyway)

Some of the best questions resist categorization. They just make you think.

• Would you rather we fought more honestly or fought less frequently?
• Would you rather always understand your partner's perspective or always be understood by your partner?
• Would you rather we had one epic love story or a hundred small, beautiful moments?
• Would you rather be the couple everyone admires or the couple nobody notices but is genuinely, quietly happy?
• Would you rather have a photographic memory of every moment we've shared or the ability to relive just one of them?
• Would you rather our love was a slow burn or a wildfire?
• Would you rather be right about something important or happy about something small?
• Would you rather we wrote our own love story or let it unfold without a plan?

And honestly? That very last question might be the one worth sitting with the longest. Because every couple is doing both, all the time. Writing the story and letting it happen. The best relationships know when to grip the pen and when to let go.

So grab your partner. Pick a category. And remember: the point isn't to win. The point is to discover. Every answer your partner gives is a tiny window into who they are right now. Not who they were when you met. Not who you assume they'll be. Right now. And that version of them deserves your full attention.